Reflections

Friendship

• By fannieb
• May 7, 2015
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“Make new friends, but keep the old; one is silver and the other is gold.” I learned this rhyme in Girl Scouts when I was in third grade and it has a nice sentiment, but as I’ve matured I find it hard to want to do. As my interests change, as I mature and improve myself I’ve noticed that some of my friends have fallen out of step with me or I with them. But either way, it is different and sometimes painful to continue on as friends. There are no hard feelings, no massive fights, just distance.

As I near the half century mark I’ve begun to consolidate my life’s accumulation of things and of lessons and I have begun simplifying my life. This taking stock and decluttering has opened up space in my surroundings and in my mind, making it easier for me to know who I am and to make new friends who are in closer alignment with the person I am now. Friends who can benefit from me and the gifts I offer today and vice versa. Now, I am able to choose friends because of similar interests, intellect, and spiritual thinking. I am not bound to making friends solely based on geography, homeroom, or work. But breaking up with good, old, friends is hard to do. And it’s not likely to happen. It’s easier not to. But the thought does cross my mind – would some of the people who are my friends now be my friends if we hadn’t grown up in the same town or gone to the same high school?

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